I am very firm believer that every action that we make, we should make because we choose, because it is articulating who we are. We should not ever make choices out of obligation. It frustrates me greatly when people make choices with out thought. A parent does not get up in the middle of the night to care for their sick child because they have to, but instead because they want to. In that moment they are choosing who they want to be, a person of love and compassion. Free will is such a wonderful gift. It breaks my heart when folks willing choose not to choose.
I think friendship is no different. I don’t think there is a single act of friendship that should be done out of obligation. It should be done out of want. Want to do something. Want to be something. Many times those decisions are hard. We have to chose to sacrifice things we want in order to do stuff for those we love, but that shouldn’t be because we have to, but because it is worth it to make a sacrifice for an other because one wants what is best for the other.

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