Brother Blue
By Gene Monterastelli
December 11, 2011 by Gene

Why I Am Giving Up Self-Improvement In The New Year

[Note: I wrote this post for Tapping Q&A Jan 5, 2010]

Recently I heard a really interesting interview with author Nick Hornby conducted by Jesse Thorn of the radio program “The Sound of Young America”. Hornby was being interviewed about his newest book “Juliet, Naked”.

During the interview Thorn asked about the new movie “An Education” which Hornby wrote the screenplay for. Thorn commented that his wife had said, “An Education was obviously something that had been written by Hornby because it is not about people trying to be better, but instead people becoming comfortable with who they are.”

That is a really interesting thought…Not improving, but becoming comfortable with who we are.

If you were to walk into a bookstore to find books on the types of things we talked about EFT/Tapping Q & A it would be in the self-improvement section.

That is an interesting title…Self-Improvement.

It implies that there is something wrong with us.

I am not saying that I am perfect, but on some level I am perfect.

There is a part of me that is perfect and eternal. I struggle in this world because I forget who I am.

It is good that we strive for better. It is good that we strive to be all that we can be, but I think we are doing ourselves a profound disservice by thinking we always in need of improving.

Much of the peace I have found in the world has come from becoming comfortable with who I am.

Blessing who I am.

Loving who I am.

When I am able to do these things then I am able to be everything I am and appreciated everything that the world is. It is from this place of being myself, not improving myself that I am able to find and appreciate the richness of life. Here is where I find joy, happiness, and blessing.

So I have started tapping to something like this:

I have been made perfectly…this does not mean I do everything perfectly…this does not mean that I can’t strive for more and better…it simply means that at my core…at my essence I am perfect…when I am able to recognize the part of me that is perfect then I am able to become in this moment everything I am made to be…I can recognize the part of me that is perfect and not be complacent…I can recognize the part of me that is beautiful and still grow…I can see the blessings in my life and be open to more…I am no longer going to strive for self improvement…I am going to strive to become who I am in every moment…I don’t need to improve who I am…I desire to be who I am made to be more fully…I am made for love…I am made for connection…I am made to be who I am in this moment…I am not made to be what other think I should be…I am not made to be what others want me to be…the does not mean I am complacent…this does not mean I am stagnate…this means that I am striving to live who I am fully in each moment…I will not do this perfectly…but I am going to strive for this…when I strive to be who I am fully then I will recognize the grace of the moment…I will be filled with joy in the moment…I will be who I truly am

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One Response to “Why I Am Giving Up Self-Improvement In The New Year”

  1. Lennie Rose says:

    This is a beautiful celebration of the OK within. The, “Yes and..”

    Thank you!

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